Why on earth did we start thinking about what happens after death when we’re so young?

Suraj and I have experienced a few losses over the last few years. They’ve all taught us different things, but one of them in particular made us question what we wanted after we died.

We realised that some had spoken about their wishes to their loved ones but hadn’t communicated it to all family members, and after they died, acting on what they wanted was hard for those left behind, because it wasn’t known to everyone who needed to know.

For others, they simply didn’t know what their parent, sibling, partner wanted. They were left feeling confused by the various suggestions/opinions of others.

When loved ones die, it’s stressful enough without having to worry about whether you’ve done the right thing or not!

We figured that if one of us died, we’d like it to be as smooth as possible for the other. We thought it would help if we created a document where we clearly expressed what we wanted.

What about my body?

I signed up for a donor card when I was in my teens, but I didn’t know that you could donate anything beyond that. I was recently made aware of the fact that we can donate the whole body to medical research. I had something new to consider.

Here’s what I found out through a little research

Organ Donation

I rang 0300 123 23 23 and confirmed that I’m registered for organ donation. I also found out that there are specific situations when the organs may not be suitable. They also may not be of any use at all if, for example, death occurs outside of a hospital.

But then what?

I want the body to be useful in some way after its become lifeless.

There’s another option, which involves the organs being used for research. In this scenario, the rest of the body would be returned to the family for them to bury or cremate.

Donating the whole body to science

I found a number to talk to someone about this here https://www.hta.gov.uk/make_an_enquiry

I learned that I can donate the whole body to medical research, but they won’t accept the body if the organs have been removed. Also, it wouldn’t be brought home if the whole body is donated.

Can we sign up for both?

Yes! You could register for both, body and organ donation. However, the medical school will only accept the body if it is whole, so it’s worth filling out a consent form or stating any preferences in a Will or some sort of document.

When donating the whole body, the recipient will need to have the body within 7 days or it will become unusable. They collect the body, and for this reason, the recipient must be one that’s the closest, as opposed to, for example, the hospital that the deceased had some sort of fondness for.

Here’s a helpful fact sheet by Dr. Hadwen Trust

Donating Your Body | help sheet by DHT by Heena R Modi on Scribd

This fact sheet has been provided by Dr. Hadwen Trust.

What will you register for?

The disrobing of Draupadi

by Heena Modi on June 5, 2016

What happened before Duryodhana tried to disrobe Draupadi

The Pandavs and the Kauravs were two families who were related. Both fathers of these families were brothers. Draupadi was the daughter-in-law in the Pandav clan and Duryodhana was one of the many sons in the Kaurav family.

Duryodhan and his brothers were invited for a royal gathering, when Duryodhan and his brothers insulted the Pandavs in an open courthouse. The ministers of the court wanted to reprimand Duryodhana for this but Draupadi suggested his weapons be confiscated instead of physically punishing him.

Duryodhan was stripped off his weapons and as he left the courthouse, he fell in a pool of water. Those who witnessed this laughed at home, and as if that wasn’t enough, Draupadi said “a blind man’s son is blind”, which was a clear insult to his father, Dhritarashtra, who was blind.

Duryodhan was furious! Soon after, he vented to his uncle, who advised him to seek revenge on Draupadi! Duryodhan felt that stripping a warrior of his weapons is equivalent to stripping a woman of her clothes, and this was the beginning of the disrobing!

Source – https://vidamanejo.com

How Duryodhana got the opportunity to seek his vengeance

In a game of dice, the Pandavas lost their kingdom and Draupadi too! This is when Duryodhana seeks revenge by attempting to forcibly disrobe Draupadi in the center of the assembly hall, for all to see! However, he repeatedly tries to strip Draupadi of her Sari, and fails, as the material doesn’t seem to end!

How does this happen? Lord Krishna protects her by using his powers to increase the length of the sari, so that the disrobing is in vain.

Source – Devi

What do you see when you look at these photos?

Sourced from http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=4141799&TPN=72

 

 

Do you see an act of violence?
Something that would cause emotional and physical harm?

Sourced from – https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Draupadi_Vastrapaharan.jpg

Do you see it as symbolic of the degradation of women?
Do you think it was an act of evil, which Duryodhana desired and planned, in order to, cancel out the humiliation he felt when Draupadi insulted him in front of so many people.

Sourced from – https://bodhikshetra.wordpress.com/2014/08/28/mahabharata-1-draupadi/

 

 

 

Do you think it represents the consequences of greed or pride on the part of the Pandavs? Did these feelings make them think they could win and that betting Draupadi wouldn’t matter, because they would turn the tables around?
Do you think it was fair? She humiliated him so he did the same to her?

Sourced from – http://readingcloth.blogspot.co.uk/2013/10/iconography-of-draupadi.html

 

 

Do you see it as an act of faith?
Draupadi had faith in Lord Krishna. She wholeheartedly surrendered, and accepted His shelter and protection. What followed, was that He did just that! He prevented her being disrobed and humiliated.

It’s all  about perception

This is a dramatic situation, but can you think of examples when something has happened and your perception drove how you thought, spoke and behaved afterwards? It may have been positive.

How we see things definitely effects how we feel, and for most of us, how we feel determines how we think and behave.

Let’s unite to protect the children of our future. They need us now more than ever!

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