This could be seen as aÂ controversialÂ post and I apologise now if the content upsets you. Although I know it is a veryÂ personalÂ topic and there areÂ probablyÂ thingsÂ involved that I have not considered, I thought it was worth posting.
I hope you find it useful in some way.
TheÂ worldÂ is a huge place, it is overpopulated and more of us are making babies. It may sound strange to link materialism to having children but I think there are people out there who areÂ materialisticÂ in a different way. They feel the need to have a child as a possession. Something to tick off the things to do list. There are others who have children and it’s not planned. There are others who had no choice in the matter and ofÂ courseÂ there are those who look after children in the familyÂ becauseÂ the ‘birth’ family could not manage for whatever reason.
Some couples have difficulty conceiving or seeing the pregnancyÂ through. There can be a number of reasons or causes but often the result is that they cannot have their ‘own’ child. Can you hear the materialism, issue ofÂ ownershipÂ creeping in here? The popularÂ alternative is IVF. That way it can be ‘their’ child regardless of how it comes about.
I am going to ask an ‘out of the box’ question. Why? Why bother? Why not manage a different way? Why am I saying this?
Well, there are so many things to consider. Some of these are: –
- Money spent on the procedure
- Having to undergo so many internal examinations
- Harm caused to the body of the mother
- Stress and anxiety every step of the way
- Pain endured
- The lack of certainty re whether it will work or not
So why do so many people go for IVF or another method that will mean the child is biologically theirs?
Does it stem from what Margaret Thatcher instilled? The attitude of mine mine and mine! Excuse the politics! 🙂
Anyway, why not adopt? There are so many children who are without parents.
I’ll leave you with a radical thought. Why not go one step further? Why not adopt from the onset regardless whether you can or cannot have your ‘own’ child/children?